Comments on: How to Win Friends and Influence People through Disagreements

By: Charles

Charles — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 06:59:10 +0000

You are right, Ricky. Do continue to feedback on how I’m treating important guests like you

By: Ricky

Ricky — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 02:45:24 +0000

Great idea.Even I faced the disagreement and I tacked it properly.You must give importance to all your reader and commentators.
“Open for ideas and changes means open for more traffic gain”

By: Charles

Charles — Sat, 30 May 2009 07:51:58 +0000

Thanks for your insight Rickie, you raised a very crucial point. It reminds me of what Donald Trump likes to say in The Apprentice “It’s nothing personal, just business.” He’s addressing the behavior and mistakes, and not criticizing the person himself. Thanks for the feedback.

By: Rickie Carter

Rickie Carter — Sat, 30 May 2009 00:25:11 +0000

Good post Charles. I found your blog through a discussion on another blog. I agree with everything you said with one exception. Criticizing behavior is not a personal attack – name calling is. An honest person may do a dishonest thing. If I say, “this is dishonest” I am not attacking the person, I’m drawing attention to something I think should be addressed. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes everyday. I’m happy when someone points out something I can do a better way – even when it feels like a sudden, ice cold shower.

By: Charles

Charles — Wed, 27 May 2009 13:33:25 +0000

Thanks for the congrats Tom! I’m glad you gained some insights from this post.

By: Tom - StandOutBlogger.com

Tom - StandOutBlogger.com — Tue, 26 May 2009 14:21:39 +0000

What an insightful post! First of all congratulations on the guest post at JohnChow.com – hope it sends some well deserved traffic your way. In regards to dissagreements, I have had my fair share and find that in the end if you give in straight away, people see you as weak willed. Be strong and stick to what you believe is right!

By: Charles

Charles — Tue, 26 May 2009 12:47:19 +0000

LOL! Nice one there Armen

But really, you’ve brought up a great point about challenging, that the difference between a genuine challenge vs a non-genuine one lies in the intent. When the intent is positive, everybody learns something from the challenge. Awesome. Thanks!

By: Armen Shirvanian

Armen Shirvanian — Mon, 25 May 2009 18:58:52 +0000

Charles: You have covered this topic in a healthy way, in that the concept has been fully explained, discussed, and connected with related points.

It certainly is the case that very few comments make an impact and the majority are forgotten after 10 seconds. The impact tends to come from pressure put on the reader. Pressure usually comes from challenging commentary that has positive intent behind it. Material with negative intent behind it is ignored, and that which doesn’t challenge might as well be empty words.

Challenges are where the improvement comes from.

I see positive movement coming from Big Idea Blogger Charles.

P.S. I completely disagree with this post and all words in it.